It's National Coaches Week. Having been coached for 10yrs in 🏊 growing up, I can't say enough how influencial they were in my life. I ran into the one I spent my last 4yrs with at the YVR airport in my early 20s and I still remember that convo. I had heard he relocated to be the head coach for Simon Fraser's Varsity Swim Team. He saw me first and his immediate words, "Oh wow Alana!! I still can't believe you gave it up. 10 years of competing, one of the youngest Albertans to have qualified for nationals, competed at that level with a lot of success, on a great trajectory and you pulled the plug when you were competing at Pan-AM in 6wks. I've thought about you often and hope life is well with you." He made me feel guilty all over again for having quit the sport but we had our chance to get the needed closure with each other as my decision to quit was somewhat sudden. Swimming was very solitary for me in that my parents were not involved other than the cheque book. In fact, all my swim years, my parents never attended one practice or meet to watch. It wasn't because they didn't want to or wasn't interested. They worked and I think it was just of the times, perhaps partly cultural. For them, it was their way to keep me occupied as I was the latch-key generation. I learned to be very independent very young, which I think is a great thing to be.
Parenting today is so different. We hover more, watch more, do more which means we criticize more and worry more. But when it comes to kids, sports and coaching, I'm a huge advocate of the importance that the athlete and coach develop their own relationship outside the context of mom and dad...let the coaches do their thing. We can be aware and support without meddling in that process that happens between athlete and coach. And most importantly, appreciate all that they do because it's a vocation often based on a labour of love. The great ones put their heart and soul into our kids.
Setiap orang tua diberi tanggung jawab memuridkan generasinya - @nining_harahap
Anak-anak yang terluka sebetulnya mereka kangen orang tuanya - @charalitafanuela
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